- Disclaimer: I am not being paid, nor have I been given anything for this review. I am writing this review because I recently found The Power Moves and I love what Lucio has to say. Lucio does not focus only on dominance, as I will in this review. But they were the articles that put the most stars in my eyes because I have seen barely anyone write such well-written articles on it. When I found him I knew I had to reach out to review him. His website will help you as it is helping me.
- Lastly, I have to mention that English is not Lucio’s first language. You will find some errors in his writing. Same with his videos. These are tiny errors that native English speakers make. You will understand him. The information is solid and Lucio makes it easy to understand, especially with video examples. Don’t let dumb excuses get in the way of becoming a better man. I fully endorse the content and is worth it.
Have you ever seen a guy walk into a room and rapidly, immediately and quickly be respected by everybody (click here for the 7 different ways to command respect through dominance)? Not only respected but also see that women are attracted to him before or even while talking to him?
You’ll notice how it triggers this agonizingly aggravating annoyance inside of you. Realize that you’ll sometimes think to yourself: “What does this guy have that I don’t? Why is he so special?”
It’s time to STOP wondering what that guy has and instead START easily, naturally and automatically getting those kinds of results for yourself right NOW!
What Does He Have?
What similar guys have is the knowledge of how to be a dominant man who pushes past his comfort zone. This gets him respect from men and dates with women because he took the time to build himself up into a sexy man. And no, it doesn’t mean a domineering man. Nor does it mean an abusive man. It means a dominant man. There is a HUGE difference. Mainstream media and society would have you believe that dominance is automatically evil. That any mention of being dominant is right up there with worshiping Satan. Because of that, there is a mountain of misinformation on what it means to be a dominant and confident man (free confidence-building workshop here).
Again, I do not mean being a domineering man or an abusive man. A dominant man is first and foremost a protector. He is a leader looking out for the people he is leading.
Understand and recognize that it’s a great thing to want to become a dominant man in your own life. Because becoming a dominant man will give you an unlimited amount of opportunities in your own life, allowing you to truly, honestly and sincerely get what you want out of your life in a way that is natural and authentic to you, without becoming a stereotypical, wife-beater-wearing personification of evil.
Now, realize that you’ll need to add in some charm and charisma (click here to add in the charm and charisma) because dominance deals with respect. Charisma and charm soften the edges to make you magnetic.
A dominant man serves his group and looks out for them. Being a dominant man can sometimes be hard, especially when he has to sacrifice his wants and needs for the groups. Because of this, he is rewarded with respect and social power. Dominant men are respectable, powerful men. Domineering and abusive men are weak, pathetic children. The fact that they are sometimes confused is disgusting to me, let’s fix that.
How A Dominant Man Speaks
Signs of Social Power: How Dominant Men Speak
Lucio starts with how to lead conversations and there are many parts that the leader of the conversation controls:
- Tempo
- Tone
- Subject
- And even who speaks
Tempo
The tempo is the speed of the conversation. For instance, a dominant man might speed up a conversation if it’s not going anywhere productive, or where he wants it to go. He has no issues with cutting someone off if they’re droning on and on like an annoying feminist unable to forgive the beautiful people of the world.
As an example, think of a time where you got sucked into a pointless and boring conversation. For me, the example that comes to mind is a conversation with an older gentleman. To this day, I swear this guy never breathed while he spoke. I never got a chance to speak. This man was a harmless example of a domineering man. He was stunningly selfish and self-serving. If I had been more of a dominant man at the time I would have cut that conversation off instead of running away from it as I did.
Cutting Off Conversations Like a Boss
You don’t have to be an asshole to do this. To politely end the conversation what you will do is gently put your hand on their elbow. This short circuits their mind for a second (for a fun social experiment with your friends say their name as you do this). That will give you a chance to say: “It was nice chatting with you but I have to go. Have a nice day.”
That’s it.
Nothing special, but it is effective and gets you what you want.
That is how a dominant man would have ended my past conversation, and how I would do that now.
Slow Down The Conversation
On the other hand, a powerful man will slow down a conversation if he is confused and wants to make sure he understands. He will ask questions or prod people to explain themselves when he wants them to.
Examples:
- Go on…
- What does that mean?
- *sometimes remaining silent is the best course of action*
This includes if he thinks someone is wrong. It doesn’t mean that he jumps all over someone, but it does mean that he stands up for what he believes in. That includes sometimes confronting people. This can be through contradicting what someone else has said or correcting them. In other words, a dominant man doesn’t waste time on what he thinks is pointless bullshit or pointless people. In doing this he communicates that his time is important.
By doing this, you will communicate that you are important. That you have value. Because more than ever in today’s world, good leaders are in short supply and are highly valued.
Being Assertive
- Update: here’s an article about how to assertively and powerfully stand up for yourself. Because you’ve gotten this far into the article already and are still reading the words on your screen, hearing them echo in your head you’ve already realized the power that you can gain from being more dominant. And that includes being able to stand up for yourself, so click on the above link to learn more.
Powerful men are assertive men. And no, you don’t have to be an asshole to be assertive. In fact, it’s better if you aren’t an asshole. Think back to the example about how to politely end a conversation. If someone is talking without breathing and you no longer want to speak to them; interrupt them. Interrupt them and tell them to have a nice day, or that you have to go.
Touch their arm and say their name as you do it for added power. That is how to be both polite and assertive. That is how to be dominant.
Nice Guys Vs. A Dominant Man
All those years ago I sat there like an idiot and let this selfish old guy talk non-stop for half an hour! Precisely as these stereotypical nice guys do every day! It’s okay if you’ve been there.
I’ve been there. I would be willing to bet that Lucio has had this happen to him too, everybody has. This is stuff most people have to learn.
Getting Better
One of the reasons that nice guys are looked over while assholes are adored by women is because assholes are naturally assertive. They believe in themselves. Assholes believe that they have value and women respond to that. Assholes demand that you respect them. And people follow their lead.
You can do the same thing while still being a great guy people love. Once you learn how to be assertive and demand respect, you will be more respected and valued than the assholes are. Strength in people is respected. Weakness is not. Assholes have room for improvement, but they are somewhat strong. Nice guys are only nice because they’re weak. That’s why nobody respects them.
How to Be Assertive in Conversations
Overall, you expand your dominance by first acknowledging that you have value. Secondly, you showcase your power and respect by getting a deep, powerful voice and powerful body language that women will be attracted to and men will respect.
What this means is you must expect to be heard and seen. Expect to be heard and STOP letting yourself get run over when you want to speak and START getting the self-respect you crave and need right NOW!
Lucio has some great video examples that are worth checking out (linking again so you don’t have to scroll up). But here’s a preview of his most important point, in my opinion.
A Dominant Man Avoids Submission
Quoting Lucio:
Dominant men avoid expressions of submission. Makes sense, no?
They avoid submitting to other people’s tempo. They avoid defending themselves, they reject contradictions and corrections and, finally, they approach questions differently than non-dominant men.
Digging deeper, what I think needs highlighting the most is rejecting moral attacks. Broadly speaking, this means not allowing people to impose their own principles onto you. And this is especially true if you have trouble with beating depression.
A valuable person creates their own ethical standards. They think about and create their own moral code. In the long run, this will make them happier because they don’t allow others to control their thoughts. High-value people control their own thoughts and their own lives. In a world where everyone is trying to impose their worldview onto everyone else, someone who stands up for themselves is like an oasis in a desert when it comes to strength.
For how to do this, check out what Lucio has to say. He has more on speaking like a powerful man with tons of video examples.
But for now, let’s look at different styles of dominance…
7 Different Ways to Be a Dominant Man
According to Lucio, there are 7 styles of dominance. We will cover the two that I believe are the most common.
The Meathead
The meatheads exert dominance via the threat of physical violence: “I’ll fuck you up”.
PROS:
Physically and biologically, we are wired to take notice of threats.
Think about it, what would happen to a caveman if he didn’t perk up when he was threatened? He would get clubbed by a fellow caveman and then his cavewoman would be taken. Or he would be eaten by a saber-toothed tiger!
If you can intimidate someone, chances are they won’t take your cavewoman. Simply because they don’t want to get hurt.
Luckily though, in today’s society, it’s unlikely that it will ever come to blows (depending on where you are). This is because even meatheads understand that it’s not worth the trouble that it would bring. That doesn’t, however, stop them from exerting their dominance through the threat of fighting.
Cons:
Because of today’s society meatheads typically don’t make it far by relying solely on physical violence.
Even successful drug lords have to exercise some brainpower to become powerful.
Confronting Physical Dominance:
Show resolve and that you aren’t scared. Depending on the environment you might get into an actual fight. It doesn’t matter. If push comes to shove don’t be afraid to trade fists with someone else.
Even in the situations where fights do escalate, most people will leave you alone once they see that you are not afraid to fight. And the crazy thing is that you don’t even have to win the fight! Standing up for yourself is more important than winning!
People that rely only on physical intimidation are looking for easy targets. Once people see that you are not an easy target they will mostly leave you alone because you won’t be worth the effort. They want easy wins and the way to beat this is to show that you are not an easy victory.
This even works in the animal kingdom!
Check out this video of a man being charged by a gorilla. He stands his ground and the gorilla backs down! We all know that the gorilla could rip him apart in two seconds flat, but the physical reactions are that powerful! Gorillas, like humans, respond to displays of power, to displays of dominance and of people believing in themselves.
Here’s another one with a charging elephant:
Like with animals, if you stand your ground you are better off. This includes when a man or woman is trying to morally shame you. Basically, anytime someone tries to bully you or intimidate you, STAND YOUR GROUND.
You’ll have to put up with some headaches right away. But you won’t have to deal with them for as long as someone who refuses to stand up for themselves. The people that give in without a fight are the ones that get picked on forever.
The Smart-Ass
Smartasses are the know-it-alls of the world. They’re better than everyone else because they know more than everybody else. They dominate with their minds. One easy example is the internet troll. Basically, the angrier a troll can make people the more the troll dominates.
Pros:
Most people respect intelligence while general society looks down on physical aggression. Because it’s harder to fight against the intangibles intelligence and knowledge. Even the boss at a job site, if they’re smart, will become submissive when dealing with someone who knows more than they do. It doesn’t mean that they’re submissive in general, but they will be in this one subject.
Cons:
If a smart-ass ever raises their voice or gets mad then they look out of character.
Not only that, but they are not relatable to anyone. This means that it’s easy for them to annoy everyone and find themselves alone. You can’t be a leader if you are alone. If you are genuinely intelligent in a specific area then you have to have balance. It doesn’t mean that you rub it in people’s faces, but don’t be afraid to be assertive when you know your shit (which is different from knowing you’re shit).
Confronting a Smart-Ass
According to Lucio, the critical thing is that you can’t take anything personally. Smart-asses have big egos (and as a former immature smart-ass I agree).
In order to beat them, you have to attack their lack of intellectual achievements. If a smart-ass does have some accomplishments then you attack those accomplishments where they are weak. The example Lucio gives is for a successful author. To attack him you imply that their books are all marketing with zero content.
There are more types of dominance Lucio goes over, including some healthy styles, but there is one more article that we need to cover. Quite possibly the most critical article.
Developing dominant body language.
What Does A Dominant Man’s Body Language Look Like?
Alpha Male Body Language: Full Guide (Videos & Pictures)
Dominant people take up plenty of space. They know that they are important and they have no problem in claiming territory. Dominant men are comfortable. They sit comfortably and they don’t press their thighs against each other if they don’t want to.
Lucio has some great points in this article, but to keep this review from getting too long we will only cover a few.
A Dominant Man is a Comfortable Man
Powerful men have relaxed body language and great posture. The guys that have terrible posture will find it a problem at first. It will be a problem because their bodies have adjusted to weak posture. Changing it will take some effort at first, but the rewards are worth it. You’ll look more powerful, you’ll have more women attracted to you and you will have a healthier body.
For the short version; try to get rid of ‘weak’ signals.
According to Lucio, high-value people avoid what is known as “displacement signals”. Displacement signals, in simpler language, are signs of discomfort or weak body language. One way for you to score some quick wins is to get rid of these signs of discomfort. They make people look weak.
Things to Never Do Again:
- Touching the back of your neck
- Scratching imaginary itches
- Touching your face all the time
- Wringing your hands together
- Opening up the collar of your shirt
Another thing to never do again is having closed-off body language:
This means crossing your arms together or rounding your shoulders together are big no-no’s. They make people look scared, or hiding from the world. Powerful, high-value and dominant people are open people.
People who are closed off are afraid of the world. Dominant people, on the other hand, are confident in who they are and they show it by taking up the space they need to be comfortable.
There are a few other tricks and tips in Lucio’s article.
But you’ll notice that the short version is that you’ll want to learn How to Stand Like Superman because logically and intuitively that’s going to trigger a powerful feeling inside of you that will radiate out into the world.
How to Be a Dominant Man Conclusion:
Lucio writes about more than how to be dominant. I focused on dominance, however, because it’s COLOSSALLY important when it comes to becoming a powerful man.
Something else I love about Lucio’s articles is a ‘reality-check’. The advice in his articles is sometimes presented in the extreme for examples. The reality-check serves to bring it back down to Earth. That way it’s more practical. It’s more practical because balance is important.
You can’t go around being Mr. Thug 24/7 because to be a great man you have to learn from other people. Sometimes you have to be submissive in life. Therefore, when you choose to, it’s okay to be submissive to other people’s dominating presence when it makes sense.
Think about it, are you going to try and play Alpha against a Judge in a courtroom?
Absolutely not!
It would be stupid to even try!
Sometimes the smart thing to do is to be submissive. It doesn’t mean that you have to be a wimp, but you don’t act like you own the place or know everything.
Being a powerful and dominant man, becoming a leader, is about balance and owning who you are so that you don’t allow others to tell you who you are. Sometimes, that means not being the leader in all situations.
And as long as it’s your choice, it’s okay. It’s a great thing! But what isn’t okay is when guys don’t choose to be submissive, they’re that way because that’s what has been drilled into them.
That’s something that I want to help with however possible. So if you know someone who is trying to reclaim their birthright as a man, send them this article. We’re here to help each other and lift each other up.
Keep Moving Forward
-Alexander
P.S. Lucio has a social power course that you can learn about here. I have not gone through the course myself, however, I am mentioning it based on what I have read on his website.
Update: I’ve gone through the course and I’d like to say that it’s worth it! What’s worth personally highlighting I feel are a few basic points you’ll get from the course:
- Learn more about ‘soft power’ and how to gain more of it so that people look up to you and respect you
- The sneaky power dynamics of the workplace and how to come out on top
- Some great advice about sticky social situations